Being presumptuous

I just love to share all the stupid crap I do because I do stupid crap all the time. and it's funny.....

This guy added me on facebook a long time ago.  I've never actually met him but we have a lot of common friends. He started chatting with me over facebook one day. He asked me if I would like to go the park and play or go to dinner and a movie, or so I thought......

 I kindly decline with, "That is very nice of you. I am very flattered. I am just not interested, thank you though. :)"
I was proud of myself for having the strength to say no when I knew I wasn't interested. (normally I don't handle things such straight forward grace)

Several days later I realized that he did not ask me out. He merely said, "do you go to the park and play or go to dinner and a movie?"
I completely read his message wrong!

I must think I'm pretty hot shit to presume that every guy that talks to me wants to date me..... hahahahah! I must have seemed like a conceited jerk! hahah!

Relationship status: Engaged

When facebook so graciously reminds that another person just got engaged I constantly walk this fine line between being super excited and happy for the engaged person and hating their guts....

The good news it that it's facebook's fault and not the person who changed their relationship status to "engaged" and posted photos of the ring, because you better believe when I get engaged I'm going to post shamelessly about my engagement every day for the ensuing months to come!

with that I shall leave you with an ecard that... well, illustrates my sentiments all too well:

Oh and since I am well past 30 and coming up on 31 I decided to finally change the title heading of this blog from 29 to 30. and maybe next year I will change it to 31. or not..... hahaha!

dating update

I have people ask me a lot who I'm dating, if I'm dating, and how is dating. I don't really care. most singles get annoyed but I am an open book.

So here is a little tidbit of my dating life for ya'll to enjoy if you care to know. It's super exciting and eventful and you won't want to miss it! ;)
 (this is an excerpt from a facebook convo I was having with a friend. forgive the improper use of tense and for the disorganization)

Earlier this summer I met this guy at a party. (let's call him "Ben") We met talked a few times at parties and church and then he left at the beginning of the summer to work and plans on coming back at the end of the summer and when he's finished working.  

Cute guy moves in to Ben's room while he's gone. (let's call him "cute guy". Ben is cute too but this guy is called Cute Guy) Ben and Cute Guy will be roommates when Ben comes back. they have mutual friends/roommates) I've talked to Cute Guy a couple of times. He is super shy according to his friend. And he said he hasn't been on a date for a year. 

I think, "If I could talk to him enough, maybe we could get to know each other and hopefully make it happen."

So I organize movie nights at his house with his other roommate. And I ask if he's going. He goes, we talk here and there over the summer. Nothing happens. 

Ben's birthday shows up on my facebook. i wish him happy birthday on his fb wall and ask when he's coming home. He comments he's home for a week. Then i get an invite to his bday party that is that night. 

I check it out and think. "oh cool. Cute Guy will be there. maybe i'll go get my flirt on and try again to talk to cute guy for the 10th time. it could be good. I think i'll clean my room in the mean time and look for a paper i've been needing from back in my college days at the U." 

I start digging through old stuff. 7pm rolls around. I think i'll go at 8. 8 rolls around. Organizing my gift wrap.... 

"Oh it's almost 8:30. Well what if not many people are there... Cute guy goes to bed early anyways. It did say they were doing a movie in the back yard. Maybe he will still be around. But it seems kinda pointless to try to keep talking to Cute Guy. He's either not interested, too shy or has no desire to try to date me. Either way I sure am throwing away a lot of junk and it feels good."

end of my dating shenanigans

Relapse

Hi, my name is Meili and I'm an addict.

I am addicted to staying up late. Not just midnight, but 4 am kinda late. I've struggled with it my whole life and this year I decided enough was enough. I had hit rock bottom. I've always known that it was a problem but I think I was in denial about how bad it was. I realized how badly it was affecting my health and my relationships. So I made getting sleep my one and only New Year's resolution. I can't say I have completely changed my sleep hygiene but I've been doing better. I was doing better.... hahaha! I am being totally melodramatic but it is true. I really do think I am addicted and I relapsed...

I hung out with some new girls in my ward. We went dancing until 1:30 one night, and then played poker until 1:00 the next night.... and well it's been a downward spiral every night from there, until Saturday night.  I stayed up until 4:00 am watching the bachelorette. The bachelorette, people! Of all things to stay up so late for. Yes. I've relapsed.... And I need help. An intervention....

Why I am a minimalist

I think I'm kinda cool, calling myself a minimalist.... But funny because I'm not really a real minimalist. I still have a lot of junk. hahaha! but I also get that it is a process and well.... I'm still working on it. I'm still decluttering. Sespite my goal to remove one item a day from my space, I still miss a lot of days. Last night I decided to declutter one drawer which turned into decluttering 5 drawers and some old school work from my undergrad. it's hard throwing away papers that I spent hours and hours on!
But I read this article today and it pretty my describes why i've decided to be a minimalist.

you should read it :) just sayin... :) hehe

http://www.becomingminimalist.com/2012/07/09/own-less-stuff-pursue-your-passions-finally/

I love decluttering! it makes my heart sing! :)

Oh! and good news! I cancelled my match.com account. again..... hahahah! how many times have I said that?! hahah! But because I am being more picky about who I spend my precious time dating, I realized that I wasn't going on nearly enough dates to justify it. It feels good. And it feels good to have so many weekends and nights available to do what I really want. I realize I was so worried about not finding someone that I was willing to date anyone in the hopes that I could convince myself that they were that someone. anyays. there is the update on my pathetic dating life. hehe

I got a date!

I got a date! I got a date! I got a date, hey hey hey hey!

I sound like the biggest lame-o. hahaha! But, honestly, since I decided not to date guys I don't like....  I haven't been on very many dates lately! Sad right? you should feel sorry for me... ;)

But I am a tiny bit excited. It's been a long time since I've had a date. pretty sure it's been 2 months! But again I'm not counting! hahahaha!

Oh, in case you're wondering... this is a blind date with someone my friend is setting me up with. I'm not sure there is such thing as a "blind date" anymore, since you can pretty much google and facebook stalk anyone you want. (which I take full liberty with)  But he seems decent. He's a photographer...... Not sure how I feel about that yet.... hahhahaha!

another crappy online dating profile

It's been a while since I've shared a profile from an online dating site....
here's a good one. ya' all might think it sounds good and sweet enough. but let me pick it apart for you and tell you why it is a HUGE no. :) and you will see why I am too damn picky. :)

The first paragraph was fine but here is where he shoots himself in the foot:
(My interjections are in italics)

I find a girl extremely sexy when a she tries to make me smile or just hugs me (physical touch is one of my 3 love languages). This makes me go to the ends of the earth for her. As a old fashion romantic, I am very loyal and I love to show it right back. I still pratice the old arts of opening doors, walking a woman to her door, and flowers. I am truely amazed when i open a door for my date and she makes a comment about never having this done before. 
ugh! hahahah! when a guy starts talking about some fictional fantasy girl who is always doing sexy things I can just tell that he has some fantasy of what a girl should be and what he is going to get, rather than what he has to offer. I'm not saying a relationship should be all about what a guy does for a girl but what each person can do for each other.  I acknowledge that he mentions how romantic  he is, but he should not be making promises like going to the ends of the earth for her...  Most of the time guys think they are way more romantic than the really are. and in my experience the guys who actually go on about how romantic they are, are not actually romantic at all. (or they are super cheesy and clingy)

I strongly believe in "love languages" and believe that it's not only important to understand them, but come to know your partners VERY well. I am a sucker for a good passionate kiss! I am looking for my princess to rescue from the tower of life. If you find me as a possible prince charming, please drop me a line.
barf! Any girl that is smarter than a box of rocks and has a grasp of reality would see right through his gushing about finding his "princess to rescue from the tower of life." I can't stand it when a guys talk about being a knight in shining armor or how romantic he is. We all know it's not true.