I thought girls were the clingy ones.... but apparently guys are. Or at least it feels that way to me. I'm sure it has a lot to do with the fact that I have been married and am enjoying my freedom, have a child and so I don't have as much free time, and am keeping myself pretty busy with pursuing photography. I just find it interesting that I go on one date with a guy and he wants to text all day the next day and the following week, try to chat with me every time I'm online and talk on the phone every night. it feels overwhelming when they want to spend every night after together , let alone going out again that same week. I'm not saying this is the case with all guys because if it was maybe I would have met and married the one I want to marry by now if all guys were that way. But when one says he wants to date me after one date i wonder how can he even know?! I find dating to be exhausting at times. Sometimes I don't want to go out on Tuesday and then again on Friday and again on Saturday. Not only that but it's hard to justify finding a babysitter twice when I probably already had to get a babysitter other days that week. I don't mind all those things guys do... They just always move so fast. As if I wasn't a commitment-phobe before, I am even worse now since I've been divorced!  I move extremely slow in dating and relationships and even figuring out how I feel about a guy. The pressure just makes me want to pull on the breaks. Can't we just take it slow and keep it light? I wonder if I will ever want to spend every waking moment with someone... and does the fact that I don't want to mean that I don't like them that much? or does it mean I have commitment issues or that I am not ready for a relationship?