"Early love is when you love the way the other person makes you feel. Mature love is when you love the person as he or she is. It is the difference between passionate and compassionate love"
Before I was married I prayed EVERY NIGHT that I would find someone who would love me just as I am and whom I would love just as he is. I went through a relationship (perhaps you remember it) where I constantly felt like the person I was with was trying to make me be who he wanted me to be and didn't appreciate me the way I was (and I did the same to him in some ways, too). I feel that with Tony, Heavenly Father completely answered my prayer. We don't have a perfect marriage but I have always felt that he loves and accepts me for who I am - even the things he doesn't really like about me he doesn't try to change, he just tries to understand that that's who I am. And I feel like I sincerely love him just as he is, too. He's not perfect but I can't think of anything that I really want to change about him. Maybe I am idealizing it too much and forgetting the stuff I do want to change, but that is honestly how I feel. I think if you pray sincerely for EXACTLY what you want, Heavenly Father will give it to you. It won't come without challenges and hardships, but it will come. That's just what I think. The only reason I prayed so hard and so specifically was because my mom told me that was what she did. She prayed for very specific qualities about her future husband, and she always says how she couldn't have married ANYONE who had those qualities more specifically than my dad. So I followed her advice and I think that's how I found Tony. I am really grateful that I went through that other difficult relationship before I got married, though, because it made me so much more aware and appreciative of the good things when I got into a healthy relationship. It always makes me think of how Lehi said that there has to be opposition in all things, and without the bad we can't really recognize the good. I think going through hard relationships makes us so much more appreciative of the good ones. Anyway, long comment but that's what I thought when I read that quote.
Before I was married I prayed EVERY NIGHT that I would find someone who would love me just as I am and whom I would love just as he is. I went through a relationship (perhaps you remember it) where I constantly felt like the person I was with was trying to make me be who he wanted me to be and didn't appreciate me the way I was (and I did the same to him in some ways, too). I feel that with Tony, Heavenly Father completely answered my prayer. We don't have a perfect marriage but I have always felt that he loves and accepts me for who I am - even the things he doesn't really like about me he doesn't try to change, he just tries to understand that that's who I am. And I feel like I sincerely love him just as he is, too. He's not perfect but I can't think of anything that I really want to change about him. Maybe I am idealizing it too much and forgetting the stuff I do want to change, but that is honestly how I feel. I think if you pray sincerely for EXACTLY what you want, Heavenly Father will give it to you. It won't come without challenges and hardships, but it will come. That's just what I think. The only reason I prayed so hard and so specifically was because my mom told me that was what she did. She prayed for very specific qualities about her future husband, and she always says how she couldn't have married ANYONE who had those qualities more specifically than my dad. So I followed her advice and I think that's how I found Tony. I am really grateful that I went through that other difficult relationship before I got married, though, because it made me so much more aware and appreciative of the good things when I got into a healthy relationship. It always makes me think of how Lehi said that there has to be opposition in all things, and without the bad we can't really recognize the good. I think going through hard relationships makes us so much more appreciative of the good ones. Anyway, long comment but that's what I thought when I read that quote.
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