There is this saying in the LDS church that many people say to "bring comfort" to those sisters in the church that are single.
I've heard it a few times from church leaders, bishops, stake presidents as a promise that "you will be a wife and/or mother, if not in this life then in the next life", as in after we die, in heaven.....
I get the good intentions behind this phrase but honestly it doesn't bring comfort at all!
It just confirms your fears that you will not fall in love with someone, get married and have that family together on this earth... what it does do is make me think that that dream and my heart's desire is not in the cards for me and is just plain depressing.
I received a priesthood blessing a week ago, because I was having a hard time with a breakup with someone that I had prayed about and thought I was really going to marry. Anyways, I asked for a priesthood blessing to hopefully calm my sad heart. And in the blessing he said, "you will be a mother, if not in this life then in the next life" Needless to say this did not calm my weary heart.
Haha, totally agree... even though I'm married. I just know it's one of those things that doesn't give you hope but fills you with dread. We ALL know that if it doesn't happen in this life it WILL happen in the next... we're not concerned about the next life, we're concerned about now. Also the same thing with comments about Sheri Dew and other ladies like her who never got married but still are good examples and role-models. When people point to them and say "See, you can still have a good life without getting married or having children!" It's like, "Okay...." I totally remember stuff like that from the single days. Don't worry Meili I can't NOT see you getting married - you are a catch!
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