So... I was just thinking about kissing and... dating.... hahah! This is going to be a good one.
Anyways, kissing can be really nice. :) But also kind of scary. I'm not talking about the scary, where you might miss and accidentally collide faces or something ultra awkward like that... (although that is a real fear of mine)
Let me illustrate: ugh! okay basically... I've gone on some dates with a few guys. They have all been good guys and dates and fun and what not. But I fear I am not ready to date any one of them exclusively (for reasons I am not completely clear on because there may be a few....). I was wondering, how long can I not kiss someone, for fear that if they catch me at a weak moment and do kiss me, sealing my fate. If I kiss a guy does that automatically mean that I can't date anyone else or does that mean that I just can't kiss anyone else? Or does it just mean that I wanted to let that guy kiss me and so I did? I don't want to be a lip slut but these lips are just too good to let go to waste. hahaha! kidding! I am definitely not a lip slut, probably to the extreme...
I know I could just do the "turn your head" move so he kisses my cheek or something like that to avoid said kiss..... It can be tricky to know what to do when you are put in a situation where you're thinking, "I think this person might try to kiss me, and I like him and I might just kiss him back if he tries." That feeling can be completely separate from that other feeling where you think, "I really like this person. I only want to date him and no one else". Anyways I was reminded of a video someone showed me when I was first dating after my divorce. I was all sorts of confused about how to handle the craziness of dating and my friend showed me this video. It sort of fits, minus the part where they are talking about the contract being something else, completely different from the commitment I speak of here. hehehe
Am I right? Or am I right!
Or am I wrong.....?
Okay hahahahaha! That was so funny! I love Flight of the Conchords, and I especially love Jemaine and when he comes in with the swirling hearts! But yes, I agree with Brett and Jemaine's wise words - a kiss is not a contract, but it's very nice, very nice. I was never opposed to kissing guys just for fun, but then it did always seem like once you kissed that made you "in a relationship." I think it's up to you, though, you could let a guy kiss you and then just clarify later that you don't think that means there's a "contract." But then, on the other hand, I always felt a little sorry for those girls who just made out with the same guy over and over and never actually had a relationship with him - it was like they were letting themselves be used for kissing pleasure. I think it's fine to kiss for fun, but I just wouldn't cross that line where a guy uses you as his kissing booty call partner (or you use him). But it definitely doesn't mean that you have to be in a relationship if you don't want to be in one... those are my opinions!
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