Someone told me today that I should not worry about dating guys who are younger than me. Apparently Joe Schmoe, who is 22, is dating some girl that is 30. So go out with that 23 year old guy this weekend. And go out with him, I will, thank you very much! I am not completely closed off to the whole idea but I admit I am a teensy bit skeptical...
It's hard to believe that I (who has fallen in love, been married, gone to and finished college, put my husband through college, was the poor newly wedded couple struggling to "make ends meet", experienced the heart break that comes with betrayal of a husband, become an instant mom to a three year old, is raising someone elses child with all their baggage, been divorced, experienced the disappointment of losing the future you spent the last 5 years creating and is failing miserably in the world of dating) will be able to have as much connection with a 22 or 23 year old (who, since high school, has been on a mission and two years of college).
I'm not saying that age is that big of a deal. It's just, honestly, easier to relate with someone who has experienced some of the things life throws at you.
Oh and the previously mentioned 23 year old sent me a text tonight to inform me that he did look me up on facebook and realized I am older than him and wanted to let me know that he is only 23. I left it up to him if he still wanted to go out. And I haven't heard back from him yet.....
I think that everyone has "baggage" in their own way. Just because someone may not have had all the same experiences as you doesn't mean they couldn't relate to you and what you've been through... like who knows what they grew up with in their family and stuff like that. It may be true that some younger guys really couldn't relate to any of it, but then again you might be surprised... that's just what I think.
ReplyDeletePS - When Tony was 29, I was 23..
ReplyDeleteOh and PSS - the new couple that spoke in my ward 2 weeks ago had an 8 year age difference and the girl was older.
ReplyDeleteYeah.... I hear of these instances.... and that is why I am trying to be open to it. :) For some reason it is easier for me to date someone that is considerably older rather than younger. Not sure why.... Maybe I'm feeling over breaking guys into the whole divorce and instant family thing.
ReplyDelete